I’ve finally allowed myself to be honest with myself. And as a result, I’m able to be honest with my partner.
From Celibacy to Sexual Assault: A True Story
I proceeded to tell them what happened. I didn’t have much in the way of details—believing that’s what they wanted to hear—but what I did share left them in a state of slack-jawed shock. They asked me to imagine for a moment if I had done to her what she had done to me, where I might be at that very moment.
"We All Deserve to Heal": 4 Steps to Move through Survivor's Guilt
I know few get the opportunity to heal. That’s the motivation that drives me to do healing justice work. But in offering community support, I often forget that I’m part of the community too, that I deserve access to heal from trauma. And those “I don’t deserve _____s” are all giving voice to my survivor’s guilt.